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Remembrances of Joy Let me tell you about my best friend. It is quite remarkable to find a best friend, a truly kindred spirit. But It is most unusual to find one as holy, as kind, as fiercely loyal to family and friends as Joy Chidobem. I first met her a few days before Chinwe and Chamberlain’s wedding. As the day approached, Joy decided that she needed to change something about the marriage ceremony. Deacon Michael told her that that part of the liturgy could not be changed, according to the rules of the Church. Joy told him that she would go to the Archbishop’s office to persuade him to agree to the exception for the wedding. She said, I go to talk to the Cardinal in Nigeria all the time! Finally, Deacon Michael convinced her to keep the ceremony as it was planned, but she was not happy. That is my friend Joy. She is, and always was, a force to be reckoned with. I found this to be true particularly when it came to her children. She is a lioness! She watches over them, prays for them, and God help you if you get on the wrong side of her where her children are concerned. Of course, Deacon Michael and I consider Chinwe to be like a daughter, and so we agree. Joy and I were casual friends, up until the moment the world changed. That is, when our beloved C. J. (our Godson) was born. Chinwe tells me that Joy prayed day and night, without sleeping or eating for days, begging God to send Chinwe and Chamberlain a baby. And he didn’t just send any miraculous baby; he sent a practically perfect baby. This baby was born on the anniversary of the day his late Grandfather Sylvanus passed – another miracle! And after his birth, Nana Joy stayed a good long time to help care for him. It was during this time that we became close friends. Chinwe went back to work while Joy watched CJ. She told me that in Nigeria she went to daily Mass, and she longed to go to daily Mass here, so on Chinwe’s day off from work, we would go to weekday Mass at St. Alphonsus. The first time we went, After Mass was over, I stood up to leave. She looked at me, shocked, and said, Are we not going to say hello to Mother Mary? Off we went to Mary’s shrine, to light candles, and pray the Rosary, pray to Our Mother of Perpetual Help, pray The Memorare. This became part of our weekly ritual. Then there were the shopping trips. We tended to get lots of sidewise glances, she in her beautiful Nigerian clothing, with pictures of Mother Mary on her dresses, and I dressed in my regular raggedy clothing. Picture the two of us just before Christmas, at Target. Joy would hold up some pajamas, and ask: Do you think these will fit Isabel, her granddaughter in Nigeria? And I’d reminded her that I didn’t know her out of town family. Down the next aisle, she would pick up slippers and ask if I thought they would fit Nneka, her daughter in North Carolina. I learned to say “yes” to all these questions and that would satisfy her. I said we were best friends, but that not true — She was my best friend, that’s true, but her heart truly belonged to Deacon Michael. He could bless a gallon of distilled water into holy water for her, which would not last as long as you might think. He had every answer to her every question. When the Deacon drove us to mass- what an exciting event! – She would sit in the front seat next to him because it was hard to her to get in the back seat. I got in the back seat. She would hang on his every word, as they chatted and he drove. Every so often I would try to interject a comment, she would hold up a finger, point to Deacon Michael, and say please go on Deacon Michael. She made me laugh out loud. Joy told me that the leader of one of her many prayer groups told her that her name should not be just Joy, but Agatha Joy, because she would have to suffer much in her life. These last few months have been full of suffering for her and for all who love, but we believe and we hope that she is now happy to be with Sylvanus. And we believe and we hope that we will be with her in the world to come. From Jude W

Wed, 10 Apr 2024 00:39:59 +0000

Remembrances of Joy

Let me tell you about my best friend. It is quite remarkable to find a best friend, a truly kindred spirit. But It is most unusual to find one as holy, as kind, as fiercely loyal to family and friends as Joy Chidobem. I first met her a few days before Chinwe and Chamberlain’s wedding. As the day approached, Joy decided t…Read More

TRIBUTE TO MY COUSIN, MRS. NKECHI JOY AGATHA CHIDOBEM. Kay Kay was my pet name for my cousin and in response she called me “Ngoo my darling”. Today, it is with a deep sense of sorrow and loss that I am penning this tribute to you. The news of your passing was bone chilling, shocking, unbelievable and unacceptable. Yet it proved true. Kay dearest, you were more than a cousin, you were my sister and friend. Thank you so much for the love, trust, pains and joy that we shared together. Little did I know it was going to end so abruptly. God knows the best. I remember that exactly a year ago, in January 2023, both of us were together at my son-in law’s grave side as he was being interred, crying our hearts out. Who would have ever believed that one year and a few months later, I would be doing the same at yours? Kay, life is indeed mysterious and unpredictable. According to Shakespeare, “ life is but a walking shadow.” Kay Kay losing you is a tragic event, especially at a time when your aged mother, your beautiful and well raised children and grand children need you the most. Kay, the vacuum your demise created in our lives especially in the Chime and Chidobem families, is incomprehensible. Only God can fill it. My cousin, Nkechi Joy Chidobem(Nee Chime), was a quintessential lady, beautiful, joyful, elegant, witty, a no nonsense person, a devoted mother, daughter, wife, sister, friend, and loving human being who loved God unequivocally . I am certain she is in the bosom of her creator, the Almighty God, who loves her more than we do. Kay Kay, my family and I, particularly, my daughter and your daughter too, Barr. Lota Blessing Owo-Osarollor and her siblings, will miss you more than words can convey. Nevertheless, we take solace in the word of God which says,” I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race. I have kept the faith”. (2 Timothy 4 verse 7). Kay Kay you have fought the good fight, you have run the race and you have kept the faith. Surely, the crown of victory is now upon your head forever. Praise God. Kay Kay, what it means to lose you on this side of creation,no one can put into words. May you continue to find eternal rest in heaven, where there is no more pain or death but rejoicing in the presence of the Lord God Almighty. I love you, my dearest, but Jesus loves you more. O God, grant us the fortitude to bear this irreparable loss. Adieu, my cousin and my friend. Adieu, daughter of Zion. Till we meet to part no more. Your cousin (Ngoo my darling) Dr. Mrs Ngozi Owo & family. …

Wed, 10 Apr 2024 00:36:28 +0000

TRIBUTE TO MY COUSIN, MRS. NKECHI JOY AGATHA CHIDOBEM.

Kay Kay was my pet name for my cousin and in response she called me “Ngoo my darling”. Today, it is with a deep sense of sorrow and loss that I am penning this tribute to you. The news of your passing was bone chilling, shocking, unbelievable and unacceptable. Yet it proved true.

Kay dea…Read More

In loving memory to Dearest Aunty Nkechi a.k.a Mum. Aunty was more than a mere presence; she was a beacon of strength, compassion, and unconditional love. Her warmth and nurturing spirit enveloped all who crossed her path, leaving an indelible mark in our hearts. From her gentle guidance to her unwavering support to my family, she instilled within anyone who crossed her path with values of kindness, resilience, and empathy. I vividly recall how Aunty treated me like one of her sons whenever I visited the family house in Lagos from Enugu on numerous holidays. You would think I was part of her family. I’m truly blessed and honoured to have known her and have her be part of my life journey growing up. She has a beautiful heart and always did whatever she could to help others. I will always remember Aunty’s Contagious laughter, warm smile, and open heart will never be forgotten. She was truly amazing, and we can all see where her kids got their loving spirit from. She lives on through the legacy of love she nurtured within her family, a legacy that shall endure the test of time and lives on in them all. Aunty was also an outstanding human who will live in our hearts and memories forever. She will be sorely missed. To her lovely family, extended family, and friends, in times of darkness, may you find solace in the countless memories that serve as pillars of strength, uplifting you during moments of despair. May her love serve as a guiding light, illuminating the path ahead as you navigate the complexities of life without her physical presence. Gone but not forgotten, always in our hearts….Adieu Mum! Ifeanyichukwu Owo

Mon, 08 Apr 2024 16:21:38 +0000

In loving memory to Dearest Aunty Nkechi a.k.a Mum.

Aunty was more than a mere presence; she was a beacon of strength, compassion, and unconditional love. Her warmth and nurturing spirit enveloped all who crossed her path, leaving an indelible mark in our hearts. From her gentle guidance to her unwavering support to my
family, she instilled…Read More

Mon, 08 Apr 2024 16:11:51 +0000

A tribute to a vivacious, witty, and an amazing Aunt. Years ago, when I was in between getting a place to stay, she asked me... no, she told me to move into her house that it was my home too. And true to her words, Mummy took my sister, and I like her very own; the times her daughter Nwando comes around, one would never know who is the biological daughter. That's the kind of beautiful soul Mummy had. She was like a lioness who protected her cubs fiercely. I remember one time I was travelling to the US. She entered the kitchen and prepared one of my favourite foods of hers and insisted I eat it before travelling. She was so selfless, accommodating, and generous. Even after we moved out, Mummy continuously checked up on us to know how we were doing. "Uchechee (as she fondly calls me), how is my Bekee( what she calls my daughter)? When I needed a nanny, Mummy took it upon herself to get one for me because she was worried about how I was coping. As I write this and remember these fond memories of her,I can't help but smile and cry at the same time. I know I have lost someone so precious and unique, but I thank God for the blessing of knowing and having her as my favourite aunt of all times (literally). "Mummy," we miss you lots...coming to the house without seeing you is still so strange and saddening. We love you, but God loves you much more, and we have the consolation that you are now resting with our Lord Jesus. Uche Jennifer Ani (nee Ene)

Sun, 24 Mar 2024 22:23:49 +0000

A tribute to a vivacious, witty, and an amazing Aunt.

Years ago, when I was in between getting a place to stay, she asked me… no, she told me to move into her house that it was my home too. And true to her words, Mummy took my sister, and I like her very own; the times her daughter Nwando comes around, one would never know who is the…Read More

Penning down this tribute is so surreal and heart wrenching, It’s hard to comprehend that you’re no longer here with us. The memories of when we were young fills my mind just like yesterday. How we moved around in matching outfits that mama always made for us, as people often mistake us as twins. Our visits to Uncle StayBright studios, as his amateur models, strutting around like we owned the place, posing for the camera with all the confidence in the world. These memories are etched in my mind forever You always had a burst of infectious energy, how you light up the room with your hearty and husky laughter, always the life of the party and readily to do exciting and fun things. You had a special ability to make the most mundane moments unforgettable. The queen of drama, never a dull moment with you!! “Sister-me” (as we called ourselves), I often pick up my phone to call and catch up with you, and remember you are no longer here with us. Our last conversation was at your hospital bed. You were making plans to come back for mama’s birthday. You were still organising and taking care of everyone as you always do. Sister-me, I deeply miss you, we all miss you. Though you may no longer be physically present, but you continually live on in our hearts. We carry your laughter, your love, and your essence in our hearts always. Until we meet again, dear sister, know that you are deeply loved and profoundly missed. Rest in peace, my dearest. Sophia Nnena Ene

Sun, 24 Mar 2024 22:23:23 +0000

Penning down this tribute is so surreal and heart wrenching, It’s hard to comprehend that you’re no longer here with us.

The memories of when we were young fills my mind just like yesterday. How we moved around in matching outfits that mama always made for us, as people often mistake us as twins.
Our visits to Uncle StayBright studios, as…Read More

TRIBUTE TO MY BELOVED COUSIN - NKECHI The Scripture reminds us of the brevity of life, describing our life as a vapor, its span as a hand breadth, its strength as fragile, and its expectancy as three scores and ten years. Like a lightening jolt, this stark reality hit us mercilessly with regards to my beloved cousin Joy Nkechi Chidobem. We are still in shock, having spoken to her shortly before her demise. When she developed this strange cough some months ago, none of us saw it as a life threatening ailment. Her children abroad insisted on a thorough medical checkup, the results of which gave us grave concerns. We stormed heaven with our prayers for healing, asking God to heal her promptly and spare her life. Chain prayers were offered for her, but it appears God wanted her home, having served Him and mankind very well. Nkechi was as bold as a lion, but also as humble as a dove. She was honest, straightforward, given to service, and religiously devotional. She was indeed our family's "nnukwu Ada" who played that role very soldierly. She also had an outreach ministry, feeding poor and indigent folks. We praise God that she remained faithful to our Lord Jesus Christ till the end. We now pray our Heavenly Father to comfort all her loved ones, especially Ezinne, her 97 years old mother, the children, who are now without father and mother, and us all her siblings. May God grant all the comfort, grace, and fortitude to bear the painful loss, in Jesus's name. AMEN The Very Rev'd Prof. Chinedu Nebo, CON, NPOM, FNSE, FNMS, FMSN, FNIPE, FNATE, FNAEng, FNIMMM. Former Nigeria's Minister of Power, Former Vice Chancellor of UNN and FUOYE, Currently, Vice Chancellor, University on the Niger

Mon, 18 Mar 2024 21:27:09 +0000

TRIBUTE TO MY BELOVED COUSIN – NKECHI

The Scripture reminds us of the brevity of life, describing our life as a vapor, its span as a hand breadth, its strength as fragile, and its expectancy as three scores and ten years. Like a lightening jolt, this stark reality hit us mercilessly with regards to my beloved cousin Joy Nkechi Chidobem. We are…Read More

Saying goodbye to a beautiful soul-Aunty Joy Chidobem My aunty Joy was such a special woman. You could tell once you were around her. She was a very strong woman of faith. a great follower of Jesus Christ after God’s heart. She would call me often and say Ada , you know you are my favorite. She would always speak about keeping in touch and keeping our family bonds strong. She and my mom were very close as she was with my dad as well. In recent years, each time I went to Nigeria through Lagos I would make sure to stop and see her and of course she was the excellent host with lots of food and drinks waiting for me. One of the ways we communicated was via chat and she would always let me know when she had arrived in my part of the world. She would send a message and say “I have arrived in life and direct!” I am in Nneka’s home or I am with Chichi. We prayed together lots of times in the recent years as she was a mighty prayer warrior and her children were her prayer points, never shy to ask for me to pray about any issue. I loved her for that. and like clock work, each time she was in the states she would ask for each of my siblings' numbers so she would reach out and call them to let them know she was around anytime she came to visit my cousins. My cousin ChiChi lived in Minneapolis and aunty Joy was a mother who loved all her children deeply. She raised them all with the strength of a mighty woman of God. When my dad her “oke ogo” passed my aunty was a great support. As recently as 2022 a year after his death she sent me a message to say “ADA a mass was celebrated for Professor Chiweyite Ejike in our church St Alphonsus Church Minneapolis on 6th September May his soul rest in perfect peace” always caring and intentional in her relationships. It’s so hard to write this but as I review my Chats with her in which she will always start with..ADA my dear… I am filled with a sense of comfort from the Holy Spirit as she was a lady who lived her life filled with Joy and intentionality to keep her relationships rich and full. Our last time together was at a family wedding and I am so happy for those memories. We hugged, we ate, we laughed, we danced and we were happy. An elegant lady always full of JOY! Rest in perfect peace my dearest sweet aunty. You have left a great legacy in your children and we are all grateful to God for a beautiful and blessed life well lived. We celebrate your life and continue to rest in the bosom of your Lord. Your Favorite-Adaweze Ejike-Maduakor

Mon, 18 Mar 2024 21:26:32 +0000

Saying goodbye to a beautiful soul-Aunty Joy Chidobem

My aunty Joy was such a special woman. You could tell once you were around her. She was a very strong woman of faith. a great follower of Jesus Christ after God’s heart.

She would call me often and say Ada , you know you are my favorite. She would always speak about keeping in touch and k…Read More

In loving memory of our dear Aunty Mommy Joy Nkechi Chidobem In loving memory of our beloved Mommy Joy Chidobem. You always brought warmth, love, joy, and laughter into every moment shared with you. Your kindness knew no bounds, and your gentle spirit brought joy and love to everyone you encountered. Memories of your infectious laughter and comforting hugs will forever be cherished, a timeless reminder of the love you showered unconditionally. Though you may have bid farewell to this world, your spirit lives on in the countless lives you touched, leaving behind a legacy of love and compassion that will endure through generations. As we mourn your loss, we find solace in the memories we shared, knowing that you will always remain a cherished presence in our hearts. Until we meet again, we carry your memory with us. Rest peacefully, dear Aunty, knowing that your love has left an indelible mark in our hearts. Lots of love, Arinze and Chinenye Nebo Ikeme and Family

Wed, 13 Mar 2024 13:46:45 +0000

In loving memory of our dear Aunty Mommy Joy Nkechi Chidobem

In loving memory of our beloved Mommy Joy Chidobem. You always brought warmth, love, joy, and laughter into every moment shared with you. Your kindness knew no bounds, and your gentle spirit brought joy and love to everyone you encountered.

Memories of your infectious laughter and…Read More

A Tribute to the late Lady Joy Chidobem (Nee Chime) My dearest Joy Lady we are very grieved that you have left us and passed on to glory to be at the right hand of the Lord God in heaven. You as my darling late brother Supac’s wife were my darling wife and bossom friend until death did us part. We spent so many happy years together and looked forward to many more years to come. But we must submit to the will of God and I want to promise you that we your family will take very good care of your children who are also my very own children that you left behind. We will continue praying that God will provide for them, support them and be there for them always. We all pray that your gentle heart may continue to rest in perfect peace as you are seated at the right hand of our Father Lord God in the bossom of Jesus for ever and ever AMEN. Nono Esomubadiye Nwakego Grace Ejike

Wed, 13 Mar 2024 13:39:59 +0000

A Tribute to the late Lady Joy Chidobem (Nee Chime)

My dearest Joy Lady we are very grieved that you have left us and passed on to glory to be at the right hand of the Lord God in heaven. You as my darling late brother Supac’s wife were my darling wife and bossom friend until death did us part. We spent so many happy years together and looked f…Read More

Epitome of Womanhood After losing my mum at an early age, I have been extremely fortunate and seemingly privileged to have had Grandma as my mother. As her daughter-in-law, the kids and I are always eager to be in her presence, she has the personality of a complete woman worthy of emulation, she is fierce in loving, kind in heart, and strong in the practice of her faith. She is the mother I never had, and I always wanted. The painful news of her passing away in the early hours of that Sunday morning of her birthday has left me devastated and in extreme grief. My family struggles with the reality of her absence daily. Grandma is always very lovely, and there was never a dull moment with her, She always wanted to solve issues, she was truly a problem-solver, always trying to solve people's problems, and I can’t place the source of her energy because she hardly eats, hardly sleeps, but was very active and strong, physically present and involved in all the same places I also found myself to be. Like the biblical shepherd, she always protected her sheep, gathering them from far and wide, and calling them home. With clarity, I remember whenever I called her, her soft and gentle voice would ask first; May...is there any problem? that's the 1st thing she would say, asking more questions about my well-being, the kids' growth, and my overall care, anxious to solve people’s problems; to her, discussing her own problems was so typically unheard of. She goes shopping and buys things for me and the family, sends money to me unannounced, buying the kids beautiful clothes, and toys. She doesn’t share the nature of a typical Nigerian mother-in-law, she is very loving, caring, supporting, and beautifully multi-talented. Grandma never waits for me to call her, and she always responds anytime I call her, but whenever she calls, she would never complain a single word! She has an enormous heart, cooking and feeding people she doesn't even know in her neighborhood with her great family's delightful recipes, everyone around her always had something to eat and drink. Whenever money is sent to her to cater for her expenses and needs; she looks for others to uplift intentionally and gives them the money. Grandma dislikes to see anybody suffer or lack anything as long as there is something she can do about it, more often than not, she would borrow from people who had and give to people who didn’t have! She would always go the extra mile for them. She prays a lot and is a prayer warrior, having a special dedication and love to her Lord and Saviour, as well as to the Marian movement of our Virgin Mother Mary, she prays for everyone around her, offering decades of the Holy Rosary to people she has contacts with, family, friends and loved ones; most times forgets to pray for even herself, grandma taught me that there is always a good reward serving God. I could go on endlessly sharing the good memories of the beautiful relationship we had, the happy moments, and her comforting smiles, she never gets angry for any reason. Grandma, I love you so much and you will always be in my heart. I pray for you and live by the lessons you taught. I miss you!!! Love May Chidobem

Tue, 12 Mar 2024 21:30:09 +0000

Epitome of Womanhood
After losing my mum at an early age, I have been extremely fortunate and seemingly privileged to have had Grandma as my mother.
As her daughter-in-law, the kids and I are always eager to be in her presence, she has the personality of a complete woman worthy of emulation, she is fierce in loving, kind in heart, and strong in…Read More

Mummy, i still find it hard to believe that you are gone. We prayed and trusted God that you will be fine, However the omniscient God who knows all, called you to his blossom , hence i cry no more but rejoice that you are with him in heaven and will continue your prayers for us all. Mummy, you lived an exemplary christian life and your attitude has drawn many to love and appreciate you sincerely. Your laughter and smile brightens up any where you are because the are genuine and infectious. I remember the day you came to Abraham Adesanya, and you spent almost the whole day in church praying without Food nor water, i was challenged and told myself if mummy can do it then i need to take my prayer life more seriously, and have a personal time for the lord. We thank you for standing in the gap in the place of prayers always . If love and money could bring you back, trust me , you will still be with us today,but your assignment here on earth is done and we know you will do great in heaven. We miss dearly ma. Lynda Ngozi Nnadi

Tue, 12 Mar 2024 21:25:22 +0000

Mummy, i still find it hard to believe that you are gone. We prayed and trusted God that you will be fine, However the omniscient God who knows all, called you to his blossom , hence i cry no more but rejoice that you are with him in heaven and will continue your prayers for us all.

Mummy, you lived an exemplary christian life and your attitude…Read More

My dearest mummy Mrs Joy Nkechi Agatha Chidobem. You were a blessing to those who knew you, with your selfless spirit, gentle prayers, and devotion to the rosary. You were a mother to all, offering comfort and care to those around you. You were a light in this world, and your memory will be a comfort to us all. You will be greatly missed, but your legacy of kindness and compassion will live on. We will always remember you for your generosity, compassion, and love. You were a bright light in this world, and your goodness will live on in the hearts of those you touched. May you rest in peace, and may your family find comfort in knowing you were so loved. Thank you for the joy you brought to this world, and for the example you set for us all. May we carry your kindness and compassion forward in our own lives. Adios mummy❤️ From:Eugenia Madueke ,Mrs Nwando Okakpu's friend

Tue, 12 Mar 2024 21:23:39 +0000

My dearest mummy Mrs Joy Nkechi Agatha Chidobem.

You were a blessing to those who knew you, with your selfless spirit, gentle prayers, and devotion to the rosary. You were a mother to all, offering comfort and care to those around you. You were a light in this world, and your memory will be a comfort to us all. You will be greatly missed, but…Read More

Grandma, I don't even know what to say. There are so many things you were supposed to be around for and it kills me to know you won't be there. I think of you everyday and all the memories we have. I wish there were more everyday. I wish there would be a time in the year I would look forward to, knowing you were coming to visit. Grams, there are too many words to describe you but I know for one, beautiful. I know I can speak for my siblings when I say we enjoyed your presence like no other. I miss the dancing, laughing, and singing with you. Playing loud nigerian music and doing your little 2 step dance. Not a day goes by without me thinking of you or a night that I don't pray about you. You were my special grams and I was your baby chimaks. No one loved me the way you did grandma and that will leave a hole that can never be filled. I am so sorry to your family and your children grandma and I wish I could just make everything better for everyone. You were so funny, loving, understanding, compassionate, and so much more. I still cannot believe you are not here anymore. That I won't see you for Christmas, or Thanksgiving, or the summer before each school year. I will forever cherish those times grams. I will miss cooking for you, and turning the tv to EWTN, and cleaning my room for you. You always showed your appreciation and happiness for when I would do something as little as cooking or cleaning. I miss many things about you grandma that can't even be put into words. Lord knows I will miss and love you forever.❤️ Chiamaka

Tue, 12 Mar 2024 21:22:41 +0000

Grandma, I don’t even know what to say. There are so many things you were supposed to be around for and it kills me to know you won’t be there. I think of you everyday and all the memories we have. I wish there were more everyday. I wish there would be a time in the year I would look forward to, knowing you were coming to visit. Grams, there are…Read More

TRIBUTE TO OUR ICON – BIG MAMA We call her Big Mama or Momsy depending on the mood in the house. My first encounter with Big Mama was during our journey to becoming family: the solemnization of Mary Friday and Chijioke Chidobem. It was a relief and noteworthy that our daughter was marrying into a decent Igbo Christian home. I will share two significant exemplary encounters of who Big Mama was to us (Lady Joy Nkechi Agatha Chidobem) As the Eldest and the Mother Representative in my home. I was unable to make the traditional wedding held in our ancestral home. It is cultural to send representatives, in-laws, and siblings. The feedback I received was pleasant. Everyone attested to the fact that she welcomed our daughter with exotic joy, receiving her into her home while glorifying the entire family. Not many women are capable of doing this. I would also like to acknowledge that this is a testament to our in-laws. The reception and warmth we received on the day of the wedding is the same till date. We are honored to be a part of such beautiful people, rich in culture and etiquette. Thank you all for the peace and honor shared between both our homes. For most mothers-in-law, there is always “drama” and a signature undertone of subtle conflict, especially during wedding ceremonies and Omugwo. Momsy was always classy, and she carried herself with great panache and a dignified demeanor dignifiable of a lady. During the white wedding, she bought and sent me my orange-coloured traditional aso-ebi, a gesture I will never forget. The only thing left was to take me to a couture designer to fabricate my dress. Big Mama was always full of surprises. She never accommodated dull moments, and her admiration for art, language, and culture perhaps gave her a deeper essence to live life to the fullest. Her presence brought joy, and she embodied peaceful living. It was a thrill to have Big Mama over during the Omugwo of our first grandchild, Tonia Chidobem. I love how she loves the grandkids and all of us around her. she spends quality time, she is always in the moment, savouring and enjoying every conversation with everyone. Big Mama was never afraid to lead or proffer solutions to challenges. She took challenges head-on. I feel pained that we didn’t get the opportunity to fully celebrate our ICON. She was a good example of what a true mother and mother-in-law should be. Perhaps, it’s important to pause and reflect on the fact that we should all live more intentionally, checking up on one another. I will miss Momsy, I will miss some good cooking and lovely engaging conversations, I will miss her perspective on issues, and the ice cream trips. Indeed, I will miss all the blessings of home. Adieu! Sweet Mother! We may have lost you in the physical, but your legacies, teachings, and presence are here with us. We feel blessed knowing that Heaven has gained yet another angel. Thank you for your leadership and bold perspective, always guiding us with light and love. You will be greatly missed! We love you, Big Mama! May your gentle soul continue to rest in the bosom of the Lord! Amen!!! Pharm. Princess Uduak Ndubuisi For: The Friday Edem Family

Tue, 12 Mar 2024 21:21:15 +0000

TRIBUTE TO OUR ICON – BIG MAMA
We call her Big Mama or Momsy depending on the mood in the house.
My first encounter with Big Mama was during our journey to becoming family: the solemnization of Mary Friday and Chijioke Chidobem.
It was a relief and noteworthy that our daughter was marrying into a decent Igbo Christian home.
I will share two…Read More

A tribute to my darling Aunty Joy! I want to share a story about my aunty Joy, that some of you may not know. She was the first aunty of mine to marry one of my uncles, Uncle Sylva who we all called uncle Supac. My mom being his older sister, so of course I was one of her flower girls at their wedding along with her sister Nkiru Chime. She made an impression on me, my aunty Joy was aways dressed very fashionably back then in the 1970’s and I thought of her as my ‘modern’ aunty. Aunty Joy as we would say marammma nwanyi, was a beautiful, tall, classy and deeply spiritual woman, known for her outgoing and cheerful personality and her devotion to her Christian faith. She was the life of the party, and whenever she showed up at our family gatherings, you will know that she had arrived. Aunty Joy was a natural organizer always taking care of everyone. My mother, Nono Nwakego Grace Ejike (Nee Chidobem), her sister-in-law, affectionately called her “Joy Lady.” My late father, Chiweyite Aguowulu Ejike, her brother-in-law, shared a special nickname with her, showing the close bond they shared. Aunty Joy was always preoccupied with the well-being of others, especially my late uncle Supac, whom she lovingly cared for. I believe that God is now taking care of her in eternal life, and she continues to be a guiding angel for her beloved children and us here on earth. Aunty Joy’s beautiful soul was like a whirlwind, bringing joy and happiness to all who knew her. May her gentle soul rest in peace with Uncle Supac until we meet again. Nene Ne-emelie Ejike-Ogwara

Tue, 12 Mar 2024 21:16:26 +0000

A tribute to my darling Aunty Joy!

I want to share a story about my aunty Joy, that some of you may not know. She was the first aunty of mine to marry one of my uncles, Uncle Sylva who we all called uncle Supac. My mom being his older sister, so of course I was one of her flower girls at their wedding along with her sister Nkiru Chime. She made…Read More

Tribute to Joy Nkechi Agatha Chidobem by Chimdi Chime (Niece) Joy Nkechi Agatha Chidobem or as I call her, aunty Lagos was the eldest sister to my father Chika O. Chime and, to me, a wonderful aunty. Aunty Lagos was a light you wanted to cling unto, she always brought vibrance and a positive uplifting energy whenever she walked into a room. She inspired me in so many ways, to be the love you wanted to receive, to be compassionate and to live an intentional and dedicated life to God and to the work you’ve set out to do. She supported me in everything I did, even when distance was a barrier, I was reminded that she always kept tabs on me and was rooting for me. I have no doubt she continues to do so now that she is with the Lord. That’s the woman she was, an exceptional mother, an incredible aunt and ever loving and supportive sister a phenomenal grandmother, a gift to humanity now and forever. I’m blessed to have had a precious aunt such as herself.

Tue, 12 Mar 2024 21:14:56 +0000

Tribute to Joy Nkechi Agatha Chidobem by Chimdi Chime (Niece)
Joy Nkechi Agatha Chidobem or as I call her, aunty Lagos was the eldest sister to my father Chika O. Chime and, to me, a wonderful aunty. Aunty Lagos was a light you wanted to cling unto, she always brought vibrance and a positive uplifting energy whenever she walked into a room. She…Read More

Tribute to A Special Aunty My deepest condolences to the entire Chidobem family on the loss of an amazing mother, sister, aunt and grandmother. Aunty Nkechi Joy Chidobem was a beautiful soul and I’m sad she had to leave us this soon. Her bright spirit and enthusiasm will always be remembered. My prayers are with the entire family. May her gentle soul rest in peace. 🙏🕊️ Signed: Dr. Thywill Chime(Niece) (Daughter of Chief Chika Chime)

Tue, 12 Mar 2024 21:13:53 +0000

Tribute to A Special Aunty
My deepest condolences to the entire Chidobem family on the loss of an amazing mother, sister, aunt and grandmother. Aunty Nkechi Joy Chidobem was a beautiful soul and I’m sad she had to leave us this soon. Her bright spirit and enthusiasm will always be remembered.
My prayers are with the entire family.
May her g…Read More

My Tribute to My Dear Aunty Lagos From Pearl Chime

Tue, 12 Mar 2024 21:08:44 +0000

My Tribute to My Dear Aunty Lagos

From
Pearl Chime

TRIBUTE TO A DARLING SISTER Yes, a very difficult task, indeed – having to write this tribute to a darling and quintessential sister: “Sister Me”. Of a fact, I started writing this tribute in my heart a couple of weeks ago but my courage kept failing me to pen it down and now, one day after the closing date for the submission of tributes, I just have to start and finish it, all in one day, even if I have to stop thus far. The point is that I am still battling with the fact that Sister Me is dead, as in that she actually died; and that is because she is still very much alive in my mind, possibly just that she is on the other side of an invisible dividing wall, hence I am still referring to her in the present tense in my mind. So much so that I had to ask the T-shirt vendor to take out the word, Late, in the design. Nkechi was just an epitome of what anybody would want in a sister and very truly so. Her arrival in any home or gathering symbolised warmth; joy; energy; camaraderie and all. Having been my elder sister for all the years God has so far blessed me with, it is obvious that the story of our relationship is a quantum one. Starting from our infantile years, when she had to guide and protect us as her juniors; being the first child of Davidson Okonkwo and Comfort Uzoamaka CHIME. Fast forward to the year 1976 when Nkechi wedded, she made my first pair of suit which I donned for her wedding! Career-wise, it was this Sister Me that guided me up to the point of not just becoming an Accountant, but a professional one at that. And when it was time for my wedding, her whole family, including the husband, who was the Chairman of the wedding reception, relocated to Jos, Plateau State, for the event. Though married to ”Supark” in far away Amansiodo, Nkechi championed and resolved any issue/matter that concerned any member of Davidson Chime’s Family. She was quick to remind all of us in any of our family meetings of how our late father enjoined her to ensure to keep the family together on his sick bed at the Amigbo General Hospital in Imo State during the Biafra/Nigeria Civil War. The old man eventually passed on January 6, 1969 and his legacies still live on and on – thanks to Sister Nkechi A-Chime(as she is fondly called) as she kept faith with that fatherly injunction. Again, fast-forward to October 2023 and it gets even clearer why this tribute has continued to be a great pain in my heart and I am trusting God for the fortitude to bear this colossal loss. I was in constant touch with “Sister Me” in far away Minnesota all through October discussing and finalizing all the arrangements for the several social events lined up by the family for the Christmas holidays, including our Mother’s 97 th Birthday celebrations. Nkechi actually chose the design of the cake that was made for Ezinne’s birthday party and she also requested that I make hotel reservations for all her Sons-in-law, who will be attending the several events from far and wide. We were all expectant and awaiting her return in November to kick-start the 2023 Yuletide activities. Then the devil struck and before we could say Jack, the worst happened. And because every conversation and discussion is still fresh on my mind, the whole issue of Nkechi’s passing still looks and sounds like an expensive joke to me but alas, that is the naked fact we have to face. However, we truly and truly take consolation in the fact that Nkechi lived a jolly good life and accomplished so much within the life span which God graciously allocated to her. Starting from her all-round commitment to the Davidson Chime’s family in Udi Town and cutting across to her infectious love, pious life and rock-solid presence in the Sylvanus Chidobem’s family in Amansiodo, Oghe, her good deeds and legacies continue to speak for her. That she will be sorely missed is a huge understatement but we are consoled by the knowledge that she is comfortably seated by her Maker, our everlasting God, and constantly praying for us till we meet again to part no more. Good Night Darling Sister and Continue to Rest in Perfect Peace in The Bosom of the Lord. Always in Our Hearts and Fondly remembered: Chief Sir Chika Ozo Chime(Jnr Brother) Ome-Ise 1 of Udi Ancient Kingdom for: the entire COC family. Friday April 19, 2024.

Tue, 12 Mar 2024 21:07:24 +0000

TRIBUTE TO A DARLING SISTER

Yes, a very difficult task, indeed – having to write this tribute to a darling and quintessential sister: “Sister Me”.

Of a fact, I started writing this tribute in my heart a couple of weeks ago but my courage kept failing me to pen it down and now, one day after the closing date for the submission of tribu…Read More

Farewell Message to Mama Joy Nkechi Agatha Chidobem The Entire Resource Management (RM) Team of the World Bank Country Office in Abuja, Nigeria expresses their condolences to the entire family of the Chidobems, and Chimes on the passing of our mother, grandmother, and Sister of our beloved Boss – Sir Chika Ozo Chime, The Ome Ise of Udi Town. The news of your passing came as a shock. We joined the prayer line for divine intervention for your quick turnaround, but God thought it better to gain your eternal rest. Our beloved boss of 33 years was truly proud of his strongly knitted immediate and extended family, he never failed to talk about them in glorying terms. Mummy Chidobem was a regular mention, the aristocratic lady of the Chime’s family, agile, beautiful, energetic, highly productive, undaunting, no nonsense woman. She held the clan and connected everyone. This we witnessed last at Chika Chime Jnr’s wedding. You commanded the show. You made impact in your lifetime; you left indelible marks….. Now you leave a wide void difficult to fill. May God console your family and loved ones, grant them the fortitude to bear the great loss. We pray for the repose of your soul. Your impact and great love for your family speaks long after you are gone. You remain in the hearts of everyone that knew you. Adieu Mama Joy Nkechi Agatha Chidobem. Have your peace in God’s bosom ma. Mrs Abimbola Matt-Ojo, On behalf of the RM Team World Bank Office, Abuja, Nigeria

Sat, 09 Mar 2024 23:24:05 +0000

Farewell Message to Mama Joy Nkechi Agatha Chidobem

The Entire Resource Management (RM) Team of the World Bank Country Office in Abuja, Nigeria expresses their condolences to the entire family of the Chidobems, and Chimes on the passing of our mother, grandmother, and Sister of our beloved Boss – Sir Chika Ozo Chime, The Ome Ise of Udi T…Read More

EULOGY TO A CHAIR LEADER MUMMY JOY NKECHI AGATHA CHIDOBEM It is with heavy heart that I pen down this eulogy to a wonderful woman. A woman of excellence, a dear sister, friend and chair leader Auntie Nkechi Joy Chidobem. You were a woman of substance, intellect, insightful, articulate, organized, of kind disposition, friendly and a go getter. You were always on the move, active, effective and never left what can be done now for a minute longer. Impossibility is not in your lexicon. Your presence and approach to issues has profound effects and inspires confidence and winning spirit among your siblings and all of us that have come to know and associate with you. You were like the proverbial mother hen to all, guiding, directing and taking hard decisions when occasion so demands. Above all you stood in the gap for all of us in prayers. Since our part crossed through your younger brother Chika Ozo Chime (Ome-Ise 1) of Udi Ancient Kingdom, you became part of my family and have always shown concern for our welfare and well-being. When the news that you were hospitalized in faraway United States got to me, my first reaction was that nothing can hold you down and that in no time you will be up and running again. Anyone that knows you well would not be surprise at this my position. But how wrong I was, because from that journey you joined the saints triumphant and transited to eternal glory on 14 th January, 2024. As we all know, man naturally is a creature of destiny and when it is time, nothing can really stop it. The strongest fails, the mighty falls and the wise lacks counsel. This was your case my dear sister. The book of Ecclesiastes 3:1-2 summed it up thus “To everything there is a season, a time for every purpose under heaven, a time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck what is planted”. Mummy Joy, you came, you saw and you conquered as summed up by St. Paul’s Valedictory in 2 Timothy 4:7-8 “You have fought the good fight, you have finished the race, you have kept the faith. Finally, there is laid up for you the crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous Judge, will give to you on this Day”. You will be profoundly missed my dear big sister. Fare well big Auntie, Fare well Mummy Joy Fare well Ada CU King, till we meet again in paradise. Chief Chidozie Paul Eneh and Family. (Eka Ekpuchi Onwa 1) of Udi Ancient Kingdom

Sat, 09 Mar 2024 17:57:51 +0000

EULOGY TO A CHAIR LEADER MUMMY JOY NKECHI AGATHA CHIDOBEM

It is with heavy heart that I pen down this eulogy to a wonderful woman. A woman of excellence, a dear sister, friend and chair leader Auntie Nkechi Joy Chidobem. You were a woman of substance, intellect, insightful, articulate, organized, of kind disposition, friendly and a go getter.…Read More

Tribute to Big Mummy Big Mummy, Big Aunty or Aunty Lagos as she’s often referred to was one of a kind. Her demeanour never depicted her age at all. She was always so full of life, laughter and playful. When you meet or encounter her, your first impression will be to immediately give her her due respect because of the kind of aura she possesses but at the same time you’ll then realise how approachable and down to earth she is. She had the soul of a teenager. So active and jovial. My last encounter with her was during my Dad’s house opening back in 25th December 2022. A super prayerful and religious woman. Always had her heart in the right place and always wanted what was best for everyone even if it meant her taking the back seat and allowing someone else (like her siblings) to take the lead. She will truly be missed. But we all know she’s in the bosom of the Lord having her well deserved and fully earned final rest. Knowing this gives us great comfort during our mourning period. Rest In Peace Big Mummy! 🥺 From Nnamdi Chime

Sat, 09 Mar 2024 17:49:22 +0000

Tribute to Big Mummy
Big Mummy, Big Aunty or Aunty Lagos as she’s often referred to was one of a kind. Her demeanour never depicted her age at all. She was always so full of life, laughter and playful. When you meet or encounter her, your first impression will be to immediately give her her due respect because of the kind of aura she possesses b…Read More

Tribute To My Dearest Mother-in-law Mrs. Joy Nkechi Chidobem. Dear Mommy (Mother-in-law), thank you for accepting me into your family and for your unflinching love and support. Thank you for all the fasting and prayers for our family, Thank you for your unconditional love for our son Chamberlain U Obialo Jnr, your grandson who you call your sugar with so much joy and love. I can still visualize how your face lights up with so much joy and happiness whenever we bring him and other members of our family to see you at the hospital. I witnessed how desperately you wanted to get well and leave the hospital to be with our family. Even in the face of death, you never wavered in your strong Christian faith and beliefs, you were strong and fearless. We prayed ceaselessly hoping and believing that you will make it home to be with us and travel back to Nigeria to be with your mother, but God called you to be with him. We are heartbroken, our son your sugar still goes to your room every morning hoping to find grandma and to say good morning. We take solace in the fact that you are in a better place where there is no more pain or suffering. Mommy, you are a precious gift from God, our lives are better because of you. Even, though you are with God, we know and believe that you can still see us, I still see your fearlessness and strong Christian faith in my wife (Chinwe) and our Children Ozioma, Nnenna and your sugar Chamberlain Obialo Jnr. Mommy, you were and will always be an integral and cherished part of our family, a guiding light in our journey. Mommy, may you find eternal peace, boundless joy, and the sweetest rest in the realms beyond. You will be greatly missed and never forgotten. We love you and miss you so much. Chamberlain Obialo & Family.

Sat, 09 Mar 2024 17:46:25 +0000

Tribute To My Dearest Mother-in-law Mrs. Joy Nkechi Chidobem.
Dear Mommy (Mother-in-law), thank you for accepting me into your family and for your unflinching love and support. Thank you for all the fasting and prayers for our family, Thank you for your unconditional love for our son…Read More

Mummy Lagos was my best Aunt! She always told me how I looked so much like her son Ekene, (my cousin). I remembered when we were little kids and we visited her home in Lagos, that was my first time eating crabs. Yeah Aunty went all out for us to give us the most expensive protein😊. In 2015, While in Banking school I stayed with Anty and she spoiled me silly. She always made sure I was okay and well fed 😊. I love her so much and she will always be in my heart. One of My wife’s memorable encounter with Mummy Lagos was in 2023 the Sunday before our wedding, where she gifted us Chin Chin and said “It is for your guests after the wedding” my wife till date says that that is the best most thoughtful wedding gift she received. Mummy Lagos even went out of her way to attend both our wedding ceremonies in Lagos and Abuja. That is Anty for you! Always the most caring and thoughtful person and constantly going all out for everyone. We love you Anty. Continue to rest in peace 🕊️🙏🏾❤️ Yours Lovingly, Mr. Chika Jr and Mrs. Oyindamola Chika Ozo Chime

Thu, 07 Mar 2024 16:43:01 +0000

Mummy Lagos was my best Aunt! She always told me how I looked so much like her son Ekene, (my cousin). I remembered when we were little kids and we visited her home in Lagos, that was my first time eating crabs. Yeah Aunty went all out for us to give us the most expensive protein😊. In 2015, While in Banking school I stayed with Anty and she…Read More

Guest: Beloved Mommy, we miss you so much. :(

Sun, 03 Mar 2024 22:46:49 +0000

Beloved Mommy, we miss you so much. 🙁